RELATIONSHIP,DATING,LOVERS

Secrets To Nurture Your New Relationship

2009-12-03T07:02:00.001-08:00

I'll get right to the point regarding how this important part of relationships is workingout for YOU-
Does the way you and the man in your life communicate make you feel loved and appreciated?
Or does it only frustrate you and make you feel sad, alone, and misunderstood?
If you don't know what to say to a man to start open conversations about your relationship and the feelings you're both having without triggering him to pull away... then creating a real relationship where you can truly love and support each other is going to be an impossible struggle.
There's an easier way...
Do you know the SECRETS that will make a man feel excited and inspired to talk, listen, and share his feelings with you... even if he's never been this way before in a relationship?
The reality is, most men don't just open up and communicate the way you want and need them to.
And because of this, lots of women end up trying to compensate by TALKING MORE and doing all the "work" in their relationship.
Of course, this just drains you and encourages the man you're with to WITHDRAW even more.
The things that allow you and a man to listen, hear and understand each other aren't "givens" in your relationship.
Just because you have strong FEELINGS for each other, it doesn't mean you're going to have thekind of COMMUNICATION you need to make your relationship truly work and LAST.
More love and sacrifice on your part is NOTgoing to make the lack of communication and sharing you have in your relationship better.
But you're thoughtful and generous for tryingthis and caring enough to give even more of yourself.
Unfortunately, stretching yourself to the pointof frustration and emotional break-down isn't going to help you - or him.
So then what should you do?
There are a few essential "keys" to building an "open line" of communication in your relationship with a man that will prevent him from closing off, withdrawing, and becoming distant no matter what happens between you.
Do you know how to share YOUR FEELINGS with aman (even the most intense ones that scare you too)so that instead of getting irritated or freaked out by them... he listens in a supportive and understanding way?
I've been able to boil down the complex process of what makes talking and communicationin your relationship work so that the more youshare - the more a man is drawn to you and wantsto give you love and understanding.
At the essence of what makes things work is the "hidden message" behind what you're saying toa man that even you aren't fully aware of - but have everything to do with YOUR FEELINGS and theresponse deep down you really want from him.
Each time you try and share something with a man, and each time he responds to you (or doesn't)... there's a subtle message being communicated under the surface.
And this is going on even if you don't seethis right now, or believe it's there or not.
Each communication has what's called a "bid"to it. And a "bid" is the hidden "subtext" thatis what we REALLY MEAN, or are really asking for.
For example, a man might say to you-
"Honey, I don't feel like talking right now" and do it with a tone of voice that shows he'sfrustrated or annoyed.
This is a "bid."
What a man REALLY MEANS when he says this is-
"I don't know if I have the ENERGY and the desire to get into this with you, because I'm afraid it will turn into some big emotional thing,and I'm not willing to go there with you now."
Of course, most men aren't even fully AWAREthat this is what they're feeling or communicating. It's just their instant EMOTIONAL RESPONSE that isn't entirely conscious and thoughtthrough.
Help the man in your life be the one who cantruly hear you and recognize and care for you andyour feelings... and get HIS NEEDS MET at the same time.
Once you learn how to do this, you will instantly become that amazing woman a man feels relaxed, open and "free" around.
Translation - the woman he wants to STAY WITH.
Close the gap between your feelings and whatthe man in your life "gets" about you.
Don't wait for things to fix themselves... or keep waiting for a man to finally "get it" when he hasn't figured it out after all this time

DANGER.

2009-12-03T06:48:00.000-08:00

This is bad for YOU, and for him.
The approach and mindset you have right now is almost guaranteed to make this man see you as too demanding and "needy" to want to be with you, when it's just a few weeks in.
So I hope you haven't started talking about all your feelings of disappointment withhim yet.. because it wouldn't go over wellwith the way you're looking at things.
But here's the worst part of all this...
You already have my eBook and you're stillasking me for the "easy" answer on this, asthough there is some magic pill I can give youthat will make a man act the way you want orexpect him to be.
I'd like to be able to lie and tell you that I could change a man for you.
But I can't... and you know it.
The truth is, I've only got YOU to work with... and you've only got YOUR OWN thinkingand your own behavior that you can use to make a difference.
It's time you started thinking about howyou can take RESPONSIBILITY for creating theRESPONSE you want in a man...
Instead of sitting around frustrated thathe hasn't met YOUR EXPECTATIONS you have forhim. (Especially when he doesn't even knowwhat these are.)
. want you to think about the 2 typesof people I talk about... and the kind of"magic mindset" that's going to help younaturally start creating great situationsin your life.
Then I want you to think about how this relates to the idea of COMMUNICATING with a man in a way that creates ATTRACTION inside of him.
As opposed to communicating with a man in the way that KILLS tinvolved with a man, or start talkingabout your relationship with him.

What If He Doesn't Call?

2009-12-03T06:39:00.000-08:00

Ever wonder why the man you're dating and having an amazing time with doesn't call you very often?
Or worse... stops calling altogether?
If you've ever had this happen to you witha man, then you know how FRUSTRATING it canbe when a man just suddenly stops callingfor what seems like no good reason...
And you've spent more time than you'd liketo admit wondering what happened and what YOUmight have done wrong.
Most women in this situation fall into akind of trap that seems to work against them...
Instead of recognizing that the man not calling is an important signal in of itself,they become obsessed with wanting to know what he's thinking and WHY he's acting this way.
But most women also know on an intuitivelevel that coming out and actually asking aman why he's acting this way wouldn't bringabout anything good.
And guess what?
Their intuition is right.
With most men in this situation, if youwant to connect with a man and grow closer, then the answer is NOT to try and get him to talk about his thoughts and feelings.
It's time you learned what it really means if a man isn't calling... and what to do about it to quickly "turn the tables" in your favor so that he's the one calling and asking you out.

WHAT IS A "COOL GRIL"

2009-10-30T05:10:00.000-07:00

Lately I've been thinking a lot about the ideaof a "Cool Girl."
You hear most men using the term, and somewomen.
Men everywhere, without ever having talked toeach other, share a common idea about women anduse the term "Cool Girl" universally.
In some places the actual words are different,but the idea is the same.
But what does it actually MEAN?
And is it important that men all have thiscommon belief about women?
Well, after thinking about this particulartopic for a long time, I've come to the conclusionthat it is a VERY important topic.
At this point, I believe that a COOL GIRL isthis "ideal" that men imagine when they're saying"I want my freedom."
They're thinking of the COOL GIRL, and thenthey're imagining themselves with a woman who isthis way.
There are a lot of aspects to this COOL GIRL.
Here are a few that are important:
- Lack of Insecurities
- Easygoing
- Humor
- Unpredictability
- Independent
- Emotionally "balanced"
...and the list goes on.
It's actually not easy to describe a COOL GIRLin a few sentences... but the truth is that a mancan recognize one INSTANTLY.
For more on exactly what a COOL GIRL is, howthey naturally communicate with men in a way thatmakes men think, "This is the kind of woman that Ican see myself committing and staying with..."
Then check out my "Catch Him & Keep Him" eBook.
Not only does it describe how men think when itcomes to dating and why they commit to and stay inrelationships with women... but it shows you howto start interacting with men and create a deepergut-level emotional attraction with a manIMMEDIATELY.

WHAT MAKES A MAN FEEL COMFORTABLE AND HAPPY WITH A WOMAN

2009-10-30T05:01:00.000-07:00

WHAT MAKES A MAN FEEL COMFORTABLE AND HAPPY WITH AWOMAN
You might not see this right now, but for mostmen, there's nothing more important than knowingthat he makes a woman feel great when she's withhim.
Seriously.
Think "ego."
If you think this truth about men through,you'll start to have a shift in perspective andsee something you've probably never seen before.
When a woman comes to a man and wants to talkabout something she thinks is wrong in theirrelationship, oftentimes a man gets upset notbecause he doesn't want to listen to the woman ortalk...
But because it's difficult for him to come toterms with the idea that the woman could beunhappy with him.
A man thinks, "It makes me feel like less of aman since I don't make her happy. If she'sunhappy, then somewhere inside I must not be goodenough."
Imagine if a man was constantly expressing hisfeelings about your relationship to you thatseemed disappointed and frustrated.
How would it make you feel?
Sure, as a woman you might think to yourselfthat you'd talk to him about it and try and makethings better...
But really you'd start to have one of 2 thingscome into your mind either consciously orsubconsciously:
1. Something really is wrong with YOU and the wayyou are in the relationship, and he's trying totell you...
2. Something is wrong with HIM and how HE thinksand feels that has nothing to do with you, andit's his own "bad thinking" about HIMSELF that'smaking him obsessively unhappy...
Either way, a whole lot MORE DISTANCE iscreated between you two.
Now, lots of women draw the conclusion thatthis means you should try and pretend things areok when they're not.
That when you're not having the physical andemotional connection with a man you know ispossible, that you can't communicate how you feelwith a man.
WRONG.
My point: If you want to learn how to connectwith a man on a deeper level, then what you sayisn't the most IMPORTANT thing.
It's HOW and WHEN you say it.
I'll tell you something -
Learning the secrets of communicating with aman and creating a deep level of Physical and"Emotional Attraction" can be very rewarding.
A lot of women know EXACTLY what it's like tobe in a relationship with a man who has NOINTENTION of committing to something more serious.
In other words, he's not feeling that powerfulgut-level ATTRACTION for you that makes all thefear and excuses for NOT being with you andbuilding a great life and partnership go awaywithout RESISTANCE.
Do you know how to make a man FEEL this waywhen he's with you.
Or are you still trying to "CONVINCE" him withwords and your own knowledge and "logic" that aclose, loving, lasting relationship with him willmake him and you happy together?
Well, let me tell you...
Just like all the other things that a man"says" that he wants and doesn't want with awoman... that most women don't ever "get", beingthe woman a man is NATURALLY ATTRACTED to on adeep level is one of the BIG ONES.
This kind of attraction is THE thing that willmake a man who "says" he doesn't want a seriousrelationship beg a woman for a real commitment anda future together.
If you understand the secrets of how attractionworks for a man, you will notice that men willstart to behave VERY differently around you.

THE MISTAKE WOMEN MAKE

2009-10-30T04:50:00.000-07:00

Now, there's a common and often irreversiblemistake that women make with men when they'redating and in relationships.
Let me ask you...
If you wanted to get closer to a man, have himsee you as a great person, develop a strongconnection, and get him to "open up" with you,then it would makes sense to do and say the thingsthat you know work to create more love andaffection, right?
This is the first inclination most women havewith men - to do the things that THEY think createlove and connection.
What if a man did this with you?
What if he decided that you worked the way hedid, and so he decided to come up to you and starttalking about sex, sports, and quickly get closeto you physically?
A man might quickly be drawn in by a woman whodid these things (not for all the right reasons,of course), but that doesn't mean he should betrying them with a woman if he wants any kind ofsuccess.
In other words, the things that work FOR YOU asa woman are NOT what work for a MAN.
Thinking this way couldn't lead to worseresults in dating situations and relationships.
But TONS of women use this tactic of what Icall "Selfish Love." They treat a man the way theywould want to be treated if they were going toshare love and connection with a man.
Another common mistake women make is takingsomething that a man SAYS he wants and doing itTOO MUCH, thinking that if "A little bit isgood, then more must be better."
For instance, a man SAYS to you that he likeswomen who are p Then what happens?
He leaves you for his ex-girlfriend aftertelling you he feels like you're too "needy."
Huh? What's going on here?
This would be kind of like a woman saying, "Myfavorite food is chocolate" and a man thinking itwould be good to feed her chocolate for every mealjust because it's her favorite... or addingchocolate to every single dish he makes for herfrom now on... and forgetting that 97% of whatshe eats still needs to be OTHER FOOD.
Let me land the plane for you.
Men don't MEAN what you THINK they mean whenthey talk about what they want and don't want.
And if you take the things men say tooliterally, you're going to wind up shootingyourself in the foot.
WHAT MEN REALLY MEAN...
So, let me "decode" what men "really" mean whenthey say common things.
Consider this your own personal "male languagetranslator." Refer to it oftenhysical and affectionate". So, youstart touching him all the time, grab his hand andhold it everywhere you go, and always stay rightnext to him.

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WHAT MEN SAY AND WHAT THEY REALLY MEAN

2009-10-30T04:46:00.000-07:00

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WHAT MEN SAY AND WHAT THEYREALLY MEAN
Have you ever heard a man say something like:
"I'm not ready for a serious relationship."
Or how about this one -
"I want my freedom."
If you've been close in a relationship with aman and he pulled away, then of course you'veheard this before.
Men say this stuff all the time.
Do you know what a man "really" means when hesays these things?
And, do you know WHAT TO DO that can instantlychange a man's predictable behavior of WITHDRAWALor RESISTANCE?
If not, then it's time you stop listening towhat a man will SAY TO YOU about himself and hisfeelings... and start paying attention to what'sgoing on inside his heart and mind.

Reading" A Man's Words And Body Language

2009-10-30T04:30:00.000-07:00

I want to help you create an AMAZING relationship with the right man... without having to deal with all the wrong men, be "manipulated" or experience pain and loss.
I believe that ANY woman can be more successful with men and dating, and I get emails every day with success stories from women who have read my ebook or tried one of my programs. They've taken what they've learned and found great guys and are growing meaningful relationships.
MANY of the secrets I've learned about how to DRAMATICALLY improve not only the emotional connection and attraction you share with a man... but also the quality, strength, and the depth of the lasting relationship that comes naturally and effortlessly as a result of creating the right ongoing emotional experience with him.
By the way, if you ever want to stop receiving my newsletters, just click the link at the top or at the end, and unsubscribe. AndI'll NEVER share your email or other informationwith anyone, by the way.
Now let's get started...
WHAT MEN ARE REALLY SAYING...
I hope you're sitting down... because what I'mabout to share with you will change how you viewmen, dating, and relationships.
I'm about to take you "behind the scenes" inthe male mind.
I'm going to give you a perspective that mostwomen never see or realize.
Unfortunately for most women, not seeing thingsthe way I'm about to share with you keeps themtrapped in patterns of misunderstanding andunfulfilling relationships with men.
If you pay careful attention to what I'm aboutto share with you, you're going to start havingmore success with men right away, whether you'resingle and looking for that right guy... or you'rein a relationship and you'd like to startconnecting on a deeper level.

HOW TO DEAL WITH A RELATIONSHIP WITH A WORKAHOLIC

2009-05-11T06:45:00.000-07:00

How to live with a partner who work to much:ways to spend time with each other,communicate,and have your needs met if your marriage or relationship is in troble because your significant other spends too mush time at a office.Beingin a relationship with a workaholic can be done.it takes a lot of hard work and dedicaton primarily from you.In some cases you may fine that it just is not worth it especially if you had grand dreams of weekend getaways.or the occasionallyevening out dinner. A workaholic is someone who is completely committed to his or her chosen profession and spends a lot time doing stuff that involves his or her job.A workaholic will put their job first and foremost before anything else in their lives.This will often mean your partner is spending lots of extra hours at the office or will be bringing work home.Hence there will be little time for you.Now to make this work youhave to be fully aware of what type of person you are getting involve with.it will work best if you are extremely active and independent yourself.

SLEEP DURING INFANCY AND CHILDHOOD.

2009-04-22T02:27:00.000-07:00

During infancy.---------------
For three or four weeks after birth the infant sleeps more or less, day and night, only waking to satisfy the demands of hunger; at the expiration of this time, however, each interval of wakefulness grows longer, so that it sleeps less frequently, but for longer periods at a time.
This disposition to repose in the early weeks of the infant's life must not be interfered with; but this period having expired, great care is necessary to induce regularity in its hours of sleep, otherwise too much will be taken in the day-time, and restless and disturbed nights will follow. The child should be brought into the habit of sleeping in the middle of the day, before its dinner, and for about two hours, more or less. If put to rest at a later period of the day, it will invariably cause a bad night.
At first the infant should sleep with its parent. The low temperature of its body, and its small power of generating heat, render this necessary. If it should happen, however, that the child has disturbed and restless nights, it must immediately be removed to the bed and care of another female, to be brought to its mother at an early hour in the morning, for the purpose of being nursed. This is necessary for the preservation of the mother's health, which through sleepless nights would of course be soon deranged, and the infant would also suffer from the influence which such deranged health would have upon the milk.
When a month or six weeks has elapsed, the child, if healthy, may sleep alone in a cradle or cot, care being taken that it has a sufficiency of clothing, that the room in which it is placed is sufficiently warm, viz. 60 degrees, and the position of the cot itself is not such as to be exposed to currents of cold air. It is essentially necessary to attend to these points, since the faculty of producing heat, and consequently the power of maintaining the temperature, is less during sleep than at any other time, and therefore exposure to cold is especially injurious. It is but too frequently the case that inflammation of some internal organ will occur under such circumstances, without the true source of the disease ever being suspected. Here, however, a frequent error must be guarded against, that of covering up the infant in its cot with too much clothing throwing over its face the muslin handkerchief and, last of all, drawing the drapery of the bed closely together. The object is to keep the infant sufficiently warm with pure air; it therefore ought to have free access to its mouth, and the atmosphere of the whole room should be kept sufficiently warm to allow the child to breathe it freely: in winter, therefore, there must always be a fire in the nursery.
The child up to two years old, at least, should sleep upon a feather bed, for the reasons referred to above. The pillow, however, after the sixth month, should be made of horsehair; for at this time teething commences, and it is highly important that the head should be kept cool.
During childhood.----------------
Up to the third or fourth year the child should be permitted to sleep for an hour or so before its dinner. After this time it may gradually be discontinued; but it must be recollected, that during the whole period of childhood more sleep is required than in adult age. The child, therefore, should be put to rest every evening between seven and eight; and if it be in health it will sleep soundly until the following morning. No definite rule, however, can be laid down in reference to the number of hours of sleep to be allowed; for one will require more or less than another.Regularity as to the time of going to rest is the chief point to attend to; permit nothing to interfere with it, and then only let the child sleep without disturbance, until it awakes of its own accord on the following morning, and it will have had sufficient rest.
The amount of sleep necessary to preserve health varies according to the state of the body, and the habits of the individual. Infants pass much the greater portion of their time in sleep. Children sleep twelve or fourteen hours. The schoolboy generally ten. In youth, a third part of the twenty-four hours is spent in sleep. Whilst, in advanced age, many do not spend more than four, five, or six hours in sleep.
It is a cruel thing for a mother to sacrifice her child's health that she may indulge her own vanity, and yet how often is this done in reference to sleep. An evening party is to assemble, and the little child is kept up for hours beyond its stated time for retiring to rest, that it may be exhibited, fondled, and admired. Its usual portion of sleep is thus abridged, and, from the previous excitement, what little he does obtain, is broken and unrefreshing, and he rises on the morrow wearied and exhausted.
Once awake, it should not be permitted to lie longer in bed, but should be encouraged to arise immediately. This is the way to bring about the habit of early rising, which prevents many serious evils to which parents are not sufficiently alive, promotes both mental and corporeal health, and of all habits is said to be the most conducive to longevity.
A child should never be suddenly aroused from sleep; it excites the brain, quickens the action of the heart, and, if often repeated, serious consequences would result. The change of sleeping to waking should always be gradual.
The bed on which the child now sleeps should be a mattress: at this age a feather bed is always injurious to children; for the body, sinking deep into the bed, is completely buried in feathers, and the unnatural degree of warmth thus produced relaxes and weakens the system, particularly the skin, and renders the child unusually susceptible to the impressions of cold. Then, instead of the bed being made up in the morning as soon as vacated, and while still saturated with the nocturnal exhalations from the body, the bed-clothes should be thrown over the backs of chairs, the mattress shaken well up, and the window thrown open for several hours, so that the apartment shall be thoroughly ventilated. It is also indispensably requisite not to allow the child to sleep with persons in bad health, or who are far advanced in life; if possible, it should sleep alone.

HOW TO COPE WITH ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION

2009-02-16T06:56:00.000-08:00

They are Included in this class are the drugs Viagra, Cialis, and Levitra. The medications used to treat erectile dysfunction belong to a class of drugs called phosphodiesterase inhibitors. And you can treat it with natural substances also. This condition is appropriately treated with medications.
It is the condition in which the male partner has a sex drive (very important), can get an erection (or at least start the process), but is unable to maintain an erection for the intended duration of sex or until an orgasm is reached. Erectile Dysfunction This is also referred to as "impotence" in men. An example would be someone using a medication or other herbal substance that is intended to treat erectile dysfunction, but that person thinks that the substance will increase sexual desire, which is not the case because that is not how the substance was designed to work. Additional problems and frustrations occur when a couple uses the wrong method to treat their specific problem, for instance using a drug or other method as the "cure all" for what is lacking in their sexual experience.
You see, all of the conditions listed above are encountered by many couples and each problem requires a unique solution. The mistake that happens often is when couples use an inappropriate method for treating the problem. For others a lack of creativity is the major cause of disinterest and boredom and has lead to poor sexual performance and desire. Some couples have too much stress in their lives that’s not managed properly and this negatively affects their sexual experience and intimacy. One couple may be dealing with erectile dysfunction in the male partner, another with lack of sex drive in the female or male partner.
However, various couples struggle with different challenges. There are proven methods to improve sexual performance and pleasure among couples.

Organizing Without Going Physical And Emotionally Bankrupt

2009-02-16T06:18:00.000-08:00

A few years ago on a Monday night I was giving my 10 year old daughter instructions on cleaning her room. I was pointing out the clothes & nick nacks that needed to be put away, where to put them & how to organize the room. I was going a mile a minute picturing the progress she would make with my expert advice when she said to me "MOM, ISN'T THERE A TUESDAY?"
That brought me up short. I didn't know what she meant until I stopped to think what she was saying. When they get an idea that they are going to organize & everything will be perfect right now, —remember the saying: "Rome wasn't built in a day"—we don't require to get everything de-cluttered & organized in one day.
it is an important step in organizing anything, a room, a closet, a desk, an office, shelves, attic, or garage, or other places they realize it is important that first comes chaos during the organizing process. When looking at the project it may feel overwhelming but realizing physically things will purposefully be undone & lots of times emotionally they will be undone & there will be chaos, but when focusing on the objective they can be sure it will all be organized & something better will have been accomplished. It shows something new is being created in your life. Remember the Phoenix was burnt to ashes? Out of the ashes it was reborn.
When doing lots of ordinary tasks first comes chaos. For Example: Take shopping for clothes for instance. By searching through racks & stacks of clothes, discarding lots of & trying on others; they eventually find what they require & then purchase them. one time home it is necessary to sort through the bags & separate the clothes in piles according to the person they were intended for. These will then be taken to their rooms to be put away. The shopping experience went from chaos to organization.
For people who sew or quilt first comes organized chaos. there is the method of selecting the fabric among a plethora of bolts of fabric, finding the right pattern, gathering the necessary supplies, cutting the fabric into pieces, then sewing it all back together to make a attractive quilt. This attractive work of art started in creative chaos.
When students are studying for a check it first starts with chaos. there's books to read, notes to refer back to, study groups to attend & organizing of thoughts. Then comes the check & it all comes together.
When tackling a room, a box, the kitchen cupboards, or the closet that will not very close remember there is a Tuesday & by starting with one thing at a time, realizing out of chaos comes beauty organizing will be a rewarding & less stressful.
By taking things one step at a time they will accomplish what they require to accomplished & be organized with the least amount of stress. Remembering that first comes chaos both physically & emotionally but out of this will rise calm, peace & a sense of accomplishment

Bad Men You Should Avoid When Dating

2009-02-16T06:07:00.000-08:00

Women always say, “I didn’t know he was like that” when their boyfriends perform acts that cause everyone around them shame. In some cases they really weren’t aware of the boyfriend’s mischievous deeds, but in other cases women knew well in advance they just hoped he would stop. Most women are not stupid, gullible, dumb, or any other name critics choose to call them for the selections in men they make. For some, they truly had no idea their boyfriend meant bad news for them. The ever-popular question of, “Why did she get herself involved with him anyway?” continues to loom over their heads and the reasons vary depending on whom you ask. Some women may have found out about their problem boyfriend and stayed because of love, status, money and/or power. Others may have stayed because they didn’t want to carry the guilt of leaving their children’s father over issues they feel could be resolved. Still many women feel they can change him. As long as women continue to believe that the power of sex, money, counseling, personal sacrifice or a host of other strategies to change a bad man will work, they will continue to subject themselves to mental and physical abuse. These strategies simply will never work for some men. There comes a time when women will have to get off their knees whether she is praying to God or pleading to her mate to change. She will have to stand up carrying her self-respect in hand and walk right through the door of “end the relationship now.” The following advice is written for women who haven’t yet made a commitment or a baby with a “bad boy.” She may be struggling with whether she is ready to settle down with him, distance herself from him or keep him as a friend. Although the best advice is not to offer to carry him or his burdens and just leave him alone, there will be those women who will still stay. If those women choose to stay, they have committed themselves to a hard life of many restless nights, aches and pains at times mentally and/or physically and they most likely will past negative behaviors to their future children and their children. The Liar – In the beginning of the relationship, you caught him in a few white lies. He had what seemed like convincing excuses; therefore you let him get away with them. Now the lying has increased and the excuses have become minimal if not at all. Actions you may want to consider are the following: Approach him not only with what you think, but what you know; in other words have proof. Stop taking his lying lightly. Let him know that this behavior you will not accept any longer. If he chooses to continue lying, then tell him you will have to end the relationship for good. Once you have made a decision that you are leaving, begin to make efforts to not be contacted by him (change your cell phone number, block his email address, put places you hang out frequently on hold, and avoid telling mutual friends about your personal whereabouts, thoughts and feelings. You must not leave and then go back to him, he will only get better about lying to you over time. The Player also known as The Pimp – This man is obsessed with being contacted or making contact with the opposite sex. He will use cell phone, email, your house phone or friends to make contact with whomever he meets. He will leave a trail of evidence whether it is the popular piece of paper that slips out of his pocket with a phone number without a name, restaurant receipts, hotel charges, cologne or jewelry gifts, read and sent email that sits in his account that he forgot to delete. He begins to create a pattern in his actions when you have become old and someone else becomes new. Look out for this repetitious pattern. He may develop his pattern after work on a daily basis working later and later nights at the office then when he comes home he is providing almost too much detail about what happened at work or not at all. Another pattern he may create may be choosing a hobby or interest that is very unusual to his personality and attending this faithfully, what you can do to find out if he is sincere is offer to pick him up from the pottery class on some nights. Watch his reaction. There may also be the weekend pattern of always “needing to get away, have some time to myself, or I’m so busy with errands.” All the while making little or no time for the two of you to go out and be seen together. When you suggest new places to visit, he finds an excuse to take you to the same area you both are familiar to keep from running into the other woman or women. He finds a way, anyway, to travel to places without you regularly using an excuse such as “I’m going to my mother’s house or hanging out with Rick, Joe or someone you never heard of Frank.” Be careful family and friends will cover for him. He will call you, at times when he knows you are out and about to see if you will be in the proximity where he will be entertaining the other woman or women. He is protective of his cell phone and his computer; if you tried to check either it maybe password protected. You may want to consider whether having to worry over your man’s whereabouts is worth all of this aggravation. In time, you will become insecure, angry for no apparent reason, and develop a since of distrust toward everyone you meet. This is baggage you don’t need. The Thief – He has been around when things go missing. At first you didn’t suspect him and thought items had just been misplaced or he blamed someone else for taking them. Yet, you have always had a funny feeling in your gut that he was the one who made off with your dad’s tools, took your favorite CD, helped himself to some cash sitting around, and other important items. It is time to come up with a plan, set him up. The kind of plan you come up with can’t be easily figured out by him and if you sincerely want your restless conscience to be at peace, then go to great lengths to figure out whether he is trustworthy. Time is money and the longer you stay with him, the more items will go missing. The Hustler – He is always thinking of a way to separate people from their money illegally. From identity theft to standing on the street corner selling drugs, he always has a knot of money and doesn’t mind living lavishly. Now you may think that what he has told you about his daytime job is paying the bills, but the truth of the matter that job didn’t pay for the designer clothing and expensive jewelry you wear; instead it was the second one you may or may not know about. This man is dangerous. He has enemies and one day some one will catch up with him, you or anyone who associates with either of you, and the sight won’t be pretty. You must ask yourself this question, is he worth putting your life and everyone else’s lives around you in danger? The Abuser/Controller – You can never do anything right. He is often critical, walks around with an attitude and every opportunity he has alone he wants you to stop living your world to be with him. In the beginning of the relationship, you justified his negative personality with excuse after excuse. Whether he is physically ill, illiterate, disabled or mentally disturbed and on medication, you have a right to explain how you feel about him to him. You may have done this already and got knocked to the ground whether verbally or physically. You may have told yourself that things will get better and he is making an effort to change. Well that is good if he is sincere about becoming a better man; however, he can make those strides without you living with him and subjecting yourself to his name calling, mood swings, choking, punching, and grabbing. There are no rewards in heaven given to women who allow themselves to be abused by men. There was only one Christ in the Holy Bible and you are not He. (Read more about the abuser in an article I wrote entitled, “How To Know Your Boyfriend Is Abusive” at this site.) The Mooch – You have invited him once again on an outing and he never has any money in his wallet. During inopportune times, he says he needs to stop at the ATM and you know there is none even close to where the two of you are located. When he offers to take you out, he usually picks a place that he doesn’t have to pay much (despite the fact that when it was on your tab he ordered steak and another time lobster!) He drives your car and doesn’t fill it up, when you mention it; he finally puts some gas in the tank -- a measly $5 or $10. Holidays come and go with very little if any acknowledgement from him. Yet, you bought him (and possibly his relatives) really nice gifts whether it was a holiday or not. He displays affection, says all the right things, and listens to your concerns only when he knows he needs something from you. If you choose to continue a relationship with this man you have options and they are as follows. You could stop being so generous and treat him how he treats you. For example, when you invite him out, treat him to the kind of places he takes you. Put a limit on how often he drives your car. Avoid helping him when he is in a bind since you know he won’t help you. Make yourself unavailable to run errands for him and anyone associated with him (that includes his children by a previous relationship, his mother, sister or brother.) If he begins to see you are no fool, he won’t continue to run over you and will grow to appreciate you. However, if he doesn’t you will be making it easy for him to walk away from you without you having to break up with him. The Drunk/ Drug Abuser – How many times have you seen him intoxicated or using drugs? Is he fun, angry, disgusting or depressed afterward? Are most of the relationship problems you have been facing associated with this type of behavior? If so, then you will have to consider whether or not you will help him get counseling from a distance, continue to live with him and endure the abuse, leave him alone altogether or create an intervention for him that includes a professional counselor, family and friends who have all been affected by his negative ways. If he consistently refuses help, then for your own sanity and safety, leave him alone.

ONLINE DATINING: THE FACTS ABOUT MAKING HER BELIEVE YOU ONLINE

2009-02-16T05:48:00.000-08:00

Being seductive can either work or blowup in your face. Online may be a little easier.
The truth about seducing her online is that you must take your time & subtly get into her head where seduction actually begins. Contrary to what a lot of people believe, seduction does not begin below the waist! The sooner we realize this the better off we will all be!
The truth about seducing her online is that there has to be a balance of romance & physical attraction. If four of these parts is missing, you won't be able to successfully seduce her online.
You need to take your time & get to know her well before trying to seduce her. do not attempt to seduce somebody you really have no romantic interest in. That would really be wrong & unfair!
The truth about seducing her online means you have to “plant a seed”. Then let it sit there for a while, before taking the seduction to the next level. Usually the “seed” is a preplanned “dream”, “thought” or “idea”.
To seduce her online, make sure he is interested in you. Even a little bit will help. But if there is no interest there at all, it will blow up in your face.
After planting the seed & letting it set for a while...eventually you will need to very gently water that seed. You can do this by telling her the preplanned “dream”, “thought”, or “idea” in small increments. Pausing along the way to gauge her reaction. If you get to the point where he seems to shutdown & block you out, it is time to stop.
The truth about seducing her starts with “planting a seed”. Then you need to “water the seed” & finally, watch her reaction.
With practice you will be able to take online seduction to an all new level

HOW CAN I GET OVER A BREAKUP?

2009-02-13T00:51:00.000-08:00

A breakup can crush your joyful disposition and replace it with tearful despair.breaking up may be one of the most traumatic experiences you've ever had to endure. In fact, some have said that a breakup is like a minideath.You may find yourself going through these and perhaps other stages of typical growth.
The good news is, you can reach the acceptance stage. how much time it will get there depends on a number of factors, including how long your relationship lasted and how far it progressed. in the meantime,how can you cope withyour heartbreak?
You may have heard of the adage that says time heals all wounds.
Try the following to,
1; ALLOW YOURSELF TO GRIEF.
2;KEEP BUSY.
3PRAY TO GOD ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS.

EMOTIONAL MATURITY.

2009-02-10T01:49:00.000-08:00

At West Point and Annopolis young men spend several strenous years studying military tactics In "proverbs 16:32, we are told that " He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city". The siege of warsaw and the cold war over Berlin are modern examples of the extent to which men will bend their efforts to take a city
A similar expenditure of prolonged effort to conquer ones own spirit will found as tedious and trying and ordeal as any military or diplomatic feat ever achieved.
Maturity simlply means being or acting your own age, as we think of emotional maturity in relation to marriage and family living.

Online Dating-The Truth About Seducing Her Online

2009-02-09T06:50:00.000-08:00

Being seductive can either work or blowup in your face. Online may be a little easier. The truth about seducing her online is that you must take your time and subtly get into her head where seduction actually begins. Contrary to what a lot of people believe, seduction does not begin below the waist! The sooner we realize this the better off we will all be! The truth about seducing her online is that there must be a balance of romance and physical attraction. If one of these parts is missing, you will not be able to successfully seduce her online. You want to take your time and get to know her well before trying to seduce her. Please do not attempt to seduce someone you really have no romantic interest in. That would really be wrong and unfair! To seduce her online, make sure she is interested in you. Even a little bit will help. But if there is no interest there at all, it will blow up in your face. The truth about seducing her online means you have to “plant a seed”. Then let it sit there for a while, before taking the seduction to the next level. Usually the “seed” is a preplanned “dream”, “thought” or “idea”. After planting the seed and letting it set for a while...eventually you will want to very gently water that seed. You can do this by telling her the preplanned “dream”, “thought”, or “idea” in small increments. Pausing along the way to gauge her reaction. If you get to the point where she seems to shut down and block you out, it is time to stop. The truth about seducing her starts with “planting a seed”. Then you want to “water the seed” and finally, watch her reaction. With practice you will be able to take online seduction to an all new level